It sad how we can be so kind and nice to others yet we can treat our own families worse then any strangers we come across. Why is it so hard to be nice to the ones we love sometimes? Is it that we just forget they have feelings and cares too? Are we somehow so close to them that we loose where we end and they begin and we just don't consider there feelings? What exactly is it that drives us to act this way? All I know is that I really want to be there for my family. I try, even now for instance, to put my family's feelings first and always consider where they are coming from. This is harder done then said of course. Sometimes it's just listening to my Husband and trying to really enjoy something he is excited about. He loves video games and they've never really been my thing but being that he loves them so much he enjoys telling me about them. ALOT! I can easily tell him I don't have the time to listen to him go on about them, but I try not to. Because, ultimitly what does interest him, though different from my original interests, have become what I love. Not because I've come to love video games but because I have come to love him on all levels and it makes me happy to be apart in something he enjoys so much even if it is just by listening to him talk about it.
As for Emilio and I, I constantly have to remind myself to practice patience. Emilio has the absolute best personality I could ever hope my child has. He's wild, rambunctious, fun, and active. I would never want to change that about him. I don't believe a child should sit still all day, and am glad my child is a free thinker. It isn't always easy being his Mother though. Quite frankly it's exhausting!! That's where patience comes in. I try to remember his energy is a good thing and try not to take that from him. It would be easy for me to just put a show on and make him sit still though it, and I have to admit on my worse days I shamefully have done that. But I try my hardest not to because I don't want to take that free fun loving spirit from him. It's my dream that he never looses that, and that no one including myself tries to take that from him.
On another note, I find it so amazing and fun to see Emilio growing into his own person. For example his love for trains. None of us "taught" him that he just feel in love with them on his own. It's beautiful to watch his individuality and personality coming out. I love seeing him learn and grow!
Well my due date is in 16days soon Emmett will be here! Were all so excited and can't wait to meet our new member of our family. Emilio always pats and lays his head down on my belly. He already loves Emmett and it's such a beautiful thing. Our love as a familys multiplying!
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Another part of a post I really like
Sometimes people say they are using "logical" or "natural" consequences to
teach their children. These are typically euphemisms for a form of
punishment - a way to "negatively reinforce" certain behaviors. This is the
flip side of reward training. If a child leaves a toy outdoors and it
begins to rain, the parent may call it a natural or logical consequence to
leave the toy outdoors to be ruined. I call it mean and that is exactly
what the child will think of it.
Is there an alternative? Yes. Relationship- based parenting is living in a
household with each person giving and getting what they need, including
support and encouragement and information. Parents take responsibility for
being kind and generous with their children while their their children are
growing into kind and responsible people, themselves. The parents do this
by BEING kind and generous and responsible with their children. Children
learn what they live with.
teach their children. These are typically euphemisms for a form of
punishment - a way to "negatively reinforce" certain behaviors. This is the
flip side of reward training. If a child leaves a toy outdoors and it
begins to rain, the parent may call it a natural or logical consequence to
leave the toy outdoors to be ruined. I call it mean and that is exactly
what the child will think of it.
Is there an alternative? Yes. Relationship- based parenting is living in a
household with each person giving and getting what they need, including
support and encouragement and information. Parents take responsibility for
being kind and generous with their children while their their children are
growing into kind and responsible people, themselves. The parents do this
by BEING kind and generous and responsible with their children. Children
learn what they live with.
Part of a post I really liked
-=-If you always have shoes in the car or with you, then you will teach her to want her shoes when she's older because she'll remember how nice it was to always have a pair around when she needed it.-=-
If you can rephrase that to think "then you will help her learn..." rather than "then you will teach her..." that will be one giant step closer to unschooling.
If you can rephrase that to think "then you will help her learn..." rather than "then you will teach her..." that will be one giant step closer to unschooling.
Monday, November 21, 2011
What you may not know about me
Just for fun, 10 things you may not know about me:
1. I have to drive when I am in the car, I have EXTREME anxiety when anyone but me drives, there are people I know that are extremely great drivers but it doesn't matter I just can't do it, it scares the heck out of me. I used to be fine when my Dad drove but can't even handle that now.
2. My house is ALWAYS a mess. I clean for hours everyday but it is never going to be one of those spotless houses, but hey if u can't stand that great news, you don't have to come over!
3. Mario is a better cleaner then me, what I do in about 11hours he does 30x's better in 3hours. Mario also washes and dries all our laundry. Thank you baby!
4.I want at least 4 kids, however Emmett may be our last one, I just feel so week I need to get this thyroid issue taken care, maybe that will help with exhaustion but as of now every bone, muscle, and joint hurts 24hours a day 7days a week. I truly believe it is from the c-section, mine went horrible and to this day that cut area still is in extreme pain everyday.
5. I am scared beyond words of delivering Emmett with Emilio I had no fear at all, I was excited to deliver him. Now I lye awake at night in tears scared. I can't do another c-section I just can't. I want a totally natural birth and I don't want to lay in a bed the whole time, unless I feel like it in the moment, but if I feel like I need to get up squat or whatever then I should be able to.
6.Yes my world really does revolve around Emilio right now, and yes I love it that way.
7.I am and always will be a reader, I always have piles of books I'm getting to and usually always read at least 2books a week and at least 1 newspaper and 4 magazines a week.
8. I enjoy doing dishes, I know weirdo right?! It's relaxing to me.
9.I should be a spokesperson for Scott toliet paper, I love it that much that I tend to talk about it WWWAAAYYYY to much! But it's the best toilet paper on earth and the most value for your money and I'm talking about the hard old kind not the new soft stuff.
10. I love board games and playing liver pool!!
1. I have to drive when I am in the car, I have EXTREME anxiety when anyone but me drives, there are people I know that are extremely great drivers but it doesn't matter I just can't do it, it scares the heck out of me. I used to be fine when my Dad drove but can't even handle that now.
2. My house is ALWAYS a mess. I clean for hours everyday but it is never going to be one of those spotless houses, but hey if u can't stand that great news, you don't have to come over!
3. Mario is a better cleaner then me, what I do in about 11hours he does 30x's better in 3hours. Mario also washes and dries all our laundry. Thank you baby!
4.I want at least 4 kids, however Emmett may be our last one, I just feel so week I need to get this thyroid issue taken care, maybe that will help with exhaustion but as of now every bone, muscle, and joint hurts 24hours a day 7days a week. I truly believe it is from the c-section, mine went horrible and to this day that cut area still is in extreme pain everyday.
5. I am scared beyond words of delivering Emmett with Emilio I had no fear at all, I was excited to deliver him. Now I lye awake at night in tears scared. I can't do another c-section I just can't. I want a totally natural birth and I don't want to lay in a bed the whole time, unless I feel like it in the moment, but if I feel like I need to get up squat or whatever then I should be able to.
6.Yes my world really does revolve around Emilio right now, and yes I love it that way.
7.I am and always will be a reader, I always have piles of books I'm getting to and usually always read at least 2books a week and at least 1 newspaper and 4 magazines a week.
8. I enjoy doing dishes, I know weirdo right?! It's relaxing to me.
9.I should be a spokesperson for Scott toliet paper, I love it that much that I tend to talk about it WWWAAAYYYY to much! But it's the best toilet paper on earth and the most value for your money and I'm talking about the hard old kind not the new soft stuff.
10. I love board games and playing liver pool!!
Friday, June 17, 2011
Fridge n fruit!!
Mario and I have to keep the fridge taped shut otherwise Emilio sits in it eating fruit all day!!
Monday, June 13, 2011
Friday, June 10, 2011
No GMO's!!!
I just want to say I am so worried about my son eating GMO's. I want my child to be healthy and I'm scared about how Obama passed the law to make it okay to have alfalfa geneticly modified now. For those who don't know since alfalfa is cross pollinated by the bugs so scientist say it will be impossible to contain GMO's in short all organic produce is in trouble. Please people educate yourself about Monsanto the devil and sign petitions against them.
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